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QUESTION: My colleague is in the hospital. Do I mail her a card from our department? Do I go to visit? Are there rules I should follow since we are work friends? Any ideas?

CALLIE'S ANSWER: Sending a card or flowers is a great idea! Do what you feel comfortable with.

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: Almost any well-wishing gesture you make will be appreciated.

It depends on how close you are to your work friend whether you visit personally or organize a gift, flowers or a card from the entire office.

I am so thankful for all the support I received from current and former colleagues during a recent crisis - cards, visits and other gestures, large and small. All of their kind thoughts meant a lot, as I am sure yours will, too, whatever your actions are.

HELEN'S ANSWER: When someone is in the hospital, he is there for a reason, and so don't feel like you have to visit, unless you are very close to that person. He may be having tests or doctor consults. Send a card or flowers from the department.

That way, the colleague knows everyone is thinking about her. One person could be designated to call or email from the entire group. Think how you might want to be treated if you were the one in the hospital. Would you want visitors? A card? Lots of flowers? Act accordingly.